Yes, adults can “outgrow” what once worked for them or what they once aspired to. It’s been said that people have a hard time accepting and/or dealing with change. But nothing stays the same forever. In your own life, how do you know when it’s time for a change? Here are some signs . . .
In every job, career, and/or daily life, there exists the possibility of becoming stagnated. Work itself is a good thing, in that it forces us to learn new skills, and change and grow as a person. If you have had a high-powered career for many years, without a lot of vacations or chances to take a break, you might become stale and/or burned out. If you’re too comfortable in a job, or otherwise bored (it’s drudgery, not exciting anymore), or you’re not challenged anymore, or out of gas (no steam left), those are signals that it’s time to move on.
If you’re not learning anything new, and you haven’t for a while, then it’s time to grow and stretch yourself in a new career or challenge. Shakeup your life a little bit – sometimes a move to a new house or another city can do the trick, or it’s quite possible that you need to make a career change. If you have already decided to pursue a new career, it’s easy to “hang back” in the old career where it’s safe (after all if you’ve been in that career for some time, then chances are you’ve been successful in it!). But you need to make a commitment to the new career and move forward. Why?
Here is a quote that someone recently sent me:
“Until one is committed there is always hesitancy,
the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness,
there is one elemental truth,
the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:
the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help that would never otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
Raising to one’s favor all manner of unforeseen accidents and meetings
And material assistance which no man could have dreamed
Would come his way.
Whatever you can do or dream you can begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
Change requires a certain degree of risk. It’s easy to want to stay where it’s “safe” and everything is known. But that’s also part of why you have stagnated. You must weigh your fear of the unknown against your need to change and do something new. Every so often you need to take on new challenges in life. Once you commit to the change you are making in your life, the Universe opens up and aligns with what you are doing. You will be forced to grow in order to face your new challenge. All sorts of opportunities will present themselves that didn’t before.
I used to be a trainer, but I am a coach now. I finally realized that I am at a point in my life where I can do this, and I needed a change. I have learned enough through my own journey and trial-and-error to be able to help others now. How about you?